Surah at Talaq, 65..........10th discourse

shaykh dr haitham al haddad, 10th discourse

[   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=smPiv8VUvgA  ]



3:26            maintainence during pregnancy.....

5:56            custody and wage for breast-feeding.

10:10          poor husband, rich wife, rich children.........

16:15          remember the good time you both had with each other before the talaq.

20:20          exceptional circumstances require exceptional rulings...

26:11          islam accept differences in level of rezki as a matter of  human fitrah

30:11          do not do'a just for your duniya

33:20          characteristics of people whom 'rezeki' chases them

36:30          abdul rahman bin au'f

40:00          still on rezeki

46:14          remembering death a lot!

48:00          tasbih, tahmid  & tahlil...

49:00           on sedeqah

1:03:00       feminist movement......husband's right over wife's earning ; shared expenses...

Surah at Talaq, 65.........9th discourse.

friends, dato and tanseri,

some of my ladies friends, on listening to this tafseer of surah at talaq, wrote back to me
that the shariah position on talaq , is biased towards men!

in fact one told me openly that, ' dr nik! please stop sending me this talaq tafseer!..'

there is a popular misconception that the shariah court is biased towards men.
but for me, listening to the shaykh carefully all up to the present stage, the' law is the law ', how unpleasant it may sound to your ears.

there are basic fundamental differences between the sublime[ sharie] and the secular.

if we are coming from a secular perspective, for example on matters of custody, this is skewed to women.
in shariah it is the other way round, generally speaking.....at least from the rather superficial consideration.

but let us examine the inherent godly wisdom here:
a divorced young lady with say three children, will have a bleak future in term of a 2nd marriage, not the men.
if he has the financial resources, a 2nd marriage after a divorce is very possible

'maintanence' in the syarie perspective is , even in the case of the pregnant women, only up to period of breast feeding.
in the secular perspective, one has to split one's income and one property 50:50 and prop up one's ex wife for life until she remarries!.....and mind you, in the west, that could well be lifelong since there is no necessity to get married anymore!

feminists are all up in arms against the shariah!
they are looking at talaq all the time from a 'secular' spectacle.
at least in our local shariah court, the concept of 'harta sepencarian', allows women to seek legal remedy, if they, allah forbid, find the marriages half through, no longer tenable.

from my 'unschooled', 'unlegal' perspective at least, most modern young muslim women can at least not find themselves, ditched homeless, if early on in their married life insist that their husband at least put both names as the shared owners of  their marital home.

as to further 'harta sepencarian', these unhappy divorced couples could settle themselves amicably with the help of good syarie lawyers, which can be quite expensive.
court matters, syarie or secular, are exorbitant, but if it come to that  kind of blows and counterblows, it is a necessary evil.

allahualam



dr nik isahak wan abdullah








[  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0uLYLsg_sqA   ]

1:17:00      on cina buta at the very end of the discourse.....NO!

Surah at Talaq, 65..........8th discourse

And will provide for him from (a quarter) whence he hath no expectation. And whosoever putteth his trust in Allah, He will suffice him. Lo! Allah bringeth His command to pass. Allah hath set a measure for all things. (3) And for such of your women as despair of menstruation, if ye doubt, their period (of waiting) shall be three months, along with those who have it not. And for those with child, their period shall be till they bring forth their burden. And whosoever keepeth his duty to Allah, He maketh his course easy for him. (4) 





shaykh dr haitham al haddad, 8th discourse, ayat 4....

[    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=atqmnd8ks9M   ]



4:10            70,000 go to jannah without 'hisab'.....the highest degree of tawakkul.
                    full reliance on allah only......extremely difficult to achieve.


25:00          discussion on 'qadar'

35:20          menstruation as an iddah period or failing which, 3 lunar months..

38:10          in pregnancy or certain illness, the iddah is different.......



hidayah, tahajjud, tgna etc and etc....

[  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1yGYHcGvWA8   ]

Surah at Talaq,65.............7th discourse; ayat 2 to ayat 3

Then, when they have reached their term, take them back in kindness or part from them in kindness, and call to witness two just men among you, and keep your testimony upright for Allah. Whoso believeth in Allah and the Last Day is exhorted to act thus. And whosoever keepeth his duty to Allah, Allah will appoint a way out for him, (2) And will provide for him from (a quarter) whence he hath no expectation. And whosoever putteth his trust in Allah, He will suffice him. Lo! Allah bringeth His command to pass. Allah hath set a measure for all things. (3)







shaykh dr haitham al haddad, 7th discourse , ayat 2

[   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CrN_w1yMPho   ]




17:10        out of political correctness even we muslims avoid discussion of 'day of resurrection'

21:00       talaq should not be combined....'i talaq you 3x! '....cannot!!


29:10       concept of full sabr......accept what is thrown to you by allah and full trust in HIM.


39:00       taqwa, is like tip toeing carefully thru a path full of thorns, as defined by ibnu mas'ud


44:10      we are all too worried about our duniya...





recitation by qari shaykh hani rifai

[  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AI14gvM8R_Q  ]

Surah at Talaq, 65...........6th discourse

friends, dato and tanseri,

if you guys think  by now the good shaykh is making a big meal out of surah at talaq, by spending 6  long hour in 5 discourses, just on tafseer of one ayat,  ayat number 1, try  putting yourselves in his shoes.  he sits on the mufti council of uk, and most european muslims have to trickle down to uk  just to get some counsel on matters of talaq and marriages that fall awry along the side..

any attempt at forming any advisory mufti council in the continent is met subjected to contempt and stiff opposition from the socalled 'natives' of the continent as an attempt to introduce and 'export' shariah and 'islamic radicalism' to europe, and be branded as an agent of 'terror'

from his esteemed perspective: he sees too many unfortunate ignorant couples, on a daily basis, technically 'living in sin', because of their complete ignorance of the intracacies of ilm  with respect to talaq.

in this 6th discourse, he will be touching on ayat 2, insyaallah!
bear with him and get educated!


dr nik howk

ps:  one prominent 'so-called muslim' in malaysia also thought so  like the european mat saleh as well. he thinks islam is retro gressive.
       
'so-called muslim' because his name is 'si mohd annu bin si anu'.......
 if you have finnished listening to the good shaykh, surf  my writings in pearls & gem for
     a  not -so-nice polemic on 'shariah 
he is a friend of mine.






6th discourse, 2nd ayat, surah at talaq, shaykh dr haitham al haddad.

[   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-e4N1yjhTc   ]



5:11          it is a popular misconception that talaq need a witness....
                 when it is done , it is done, bru!.......so think with your right 'head' when you talaq


8:15         rujuk only valid for revokable talaq, ie the 1st and 2nd talaq.
                rujuk is not conditional to consent of wife.......IMPORTANT.

14:30      BE CAREFUL sisters!...........rujuk is not conditional to your consent.
                if you remarry after a  valid rujuk, you are living in adultery with your new husband.


22.20      the judgement does not make halal what is haram.

33:10      mischievous husbands out to punish wives.......

40:10      'gantung tak bertali'......hanging marriage!

48:10      when people of knowledge dont take responsibility, there is trouble for the ummah.

50:20      civil divorce is not a valid islamic talaq


54:10     civil marriage is a civil contract. it is a financial contract, unlike in the shariah.

57:20     civil divorce is not a valid islamic divorce

59:00  they are different systems: apples and oranges......




from pearls & gem :
of apples and oranges part 2

[  http://drnikisahak.blogspot.com/2018/10/of-apples-and-orangespart-2.html   ]

Surah at Talaq,65...........5th discourse

recitation, shaykh mishary rashid al afasy

[  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38XFEQT8qA4  ]






5th discourse, shaykh dr haitham al haddad,

[  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kSPXTbTftEM   ]



2:10             the wisdom of staying in the matrimonial house during iddah

4:50             avoid the 'dirty corner' for god's sake!

8:10             'the lion of the den'

12:00           after the 3rd talaq, 'the irrevocable divorce', during iddah the wife must observe 
                     full hijab.
                     dont 'shop' around for alternative 'ruling'. 
                     haram is haram.


35:10           transgression of allah's boundaries has implications in this duniya, as well as in 
                    akhirat

42:00           who benefits from worship of allah?

46:10           'if you don't do this i will divorce you!'.........dont make decision when you are
                     angry

Surah at Talaq, 65........4th discourse

friends , dato and tanseri,


in the question time of the 4th discourse the good shaykh explained that there is no such thing as 'alimony' in a muslim divorce.

beyond the iddah period there is no 'free lunch or dinner' for the divorced lady.
getting 50 % of one's ex husband's earnings and property and as in the west, even future earnings, are the preserve of 'secular courts'!
this would come as a shock to ladies and feminists amongst us vis a vis 'sisters in islam and people sewaktu dengan mereka'.

to remedy this , in some syarie courts such as in malaysia, we have the concept of 'harta sepencarian'.

elsewhere in the western diaspora, people resort to the secular courts, since marriages in these muslim minority countries oftentimes take place both in the civil way [ as a ruling of the country] as well as from the islamic  perspective.


this state of the shariah ruling may appear harsh to women on superficial consideration.
it appear harsh to even me but this is allah's ruling.....
in HIS ultimate wisdom HE knows best.

perhaps the law of talaq is closely related to the law of inheritance.
in traditional muslim society of old where do poor, unpropertied divorced single ladies go to after their iddah?

to their male brothers'  family......brothers who had two shares of whatever his father or mother left as inheritance!

the beauty of islam !
the male siblings are the haven to the sisters!
so few of us male siblings know and practice this nowadays.

most of us take our inheritance being double of our sisters as our god given right and gift, forgeting our awesome responsibilty to them in later adult life, if they were unfortunate enought to fall on the wrong end of this journey that we call life.
some even have the temerity to ask their sisters to give their  half shares to them !

our sisters met, got in love, and subsequently got married....but as marriages  go, they are not made in heaven, some of them are bound to fail due to a multiplicity of reasons and human failings.

we, as the brothers , have to be there for them.

' there is no such thing as a free lunch bru..!'

allahualam!


dr nik isahak 








commentary by shaykh dr haitham al haddad, 4th discourse

[   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MPivCOCmAck    ]


4.00               talaq bida'ah......its technicalities and ramifications, but the talaq is operative and                          valid. it is a sin, but the talaq is valid.

10.20            after 3 talaq  .............even in the west, np, espepecially in the west,scholars have a                         lot of constraints . no mention of 'cina buta ' even here.


28:44           rujuk can be  automatic after intimacy between the couple.

31:20           in islam , to prevent escalation of divorce, separation during iddah should be                                  avoided  

44:10            love is not the only basis of a marriage in islam.......  

1:07:10        in the islamic legal system, it is haram for wife to take 50 % of husband's property
                    after divorce !!........as in the secular system. [ xxxxx]





[ xxxxxxx ]

........in the local context, a divorced woman in malaysia does not need to go to a secular court to
get 'maintainence' or 'alimony' for want of better terms.
there are provisions in the syarie court.

they have to know their rights.
read the following:

[  http://www.jksnpp.gov.my/jksnpphq/index.php/18-penerbitan-mahkamah/84-harta-sepencarian-konsep-dan-amalan  ]

Surah at Talaq,65........shaykh dr haitham al haddad, discourse 3

commentary by shaykh dr haitham al haddad, discourse 3

[  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuavgBE4b9U&t=39s   ]




friends, dato and tanseri,


well worth listening wholly
fascinating story from a member of the mufti council for giving fatwa for uk and europe.
the shaykh has some very illuminating anecdotes.

before ladies, here especially, give harsh statements on the syarie courts on matters of divorce i would advice them to listen to this shaykh's discourse fully and carefully.

now i am beginning to look at those 'boys' manning  the fort at mais, maik , maip , jakim etc and etc with more understanding.
we lack ilm , ilm and ilm and make harsh judgement on our muftis mainly.

they dont have many 'ways' to move.
follow the hadith and the quran and when the example are neither in both, they have to use their collective grey mater, in ways limited by the hadith and the qur'an.

oftentimes the constraint come from the royal houses as well lording over them as in the case with 'rokok fatwa' some years back.

some 'people' who should know better oftentimes plays to the gallery even in matters of ugama!

we the ignorant masses are 'imaginative'. 
some of us are brought up from day one on a daily staple diet of ignorance , kuffur and ghaflah.
thus the vast dichotomy in thoughts and deliberation between us and the ulul amri is not surprising.

one corporate lady, a banker, some years back was angry with the fatwa council over a fatwa on yoga.
that anger just revealed her obvious ignorance of what a fatwa mean and the position of the ulul amri in our relatively  'irreligious' millieu'.

we have no nabi now for over 1400 years.
our ulul amri we treat them like 'dirt'.
they are 'sahabat nabi ' in his absence.

we treat them like 'dirt'
this is dunia akhirzaman!

some clowns amongst the ladies are even taking the ugama bodies to court over a fatwa!
ya allah, apa nak jadi kepada kita ni!

dah lah ilm kurang,
iman tak kemana,
amal lagi kurang 
ihsan......' what animal is this?'

to make matter worse these are the 'clowns' that are given mple space and time to air their horrendous ignorance of their ugama in the public domain.

dunia akhir zaman!!


dr nik howk

Surah at Talaq,65.........part 2, with shaykh dr haitham al haddad

friends, dato and tanseri,

locally at least in malaysia, jais, mais, jakim etc and etc have always been the 'punch bag' for angry ladies organization like s.i.s etc an etc.
listening to the details involved in divorce from the syarie perspective i can now see and appreciate these 'poor' ustaz in a different light.

we , generally lack ilm, ilm and ilm and wisdom to appreciate the work they do at their level to keep marriages going.

do take your time to listen to this lengthy discourse on talaq.

dr nik





shaykh dr haitham al haddad, commentary part 2....

[  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5NcaJugJIQ   ]




10:10         estimated muslim marriages in the uk ending up in divorce around 35 to 40 %
                  current ball park estimate.
                  4 ways of ending wedlock: talaq, khuluq, dissolution, li'aan.......

24:05        iddah......a rethinking period

30:15        rujuk ......no right of refusal on the part of the woman.
                                 her consent is not a prerequisite of a valid rujuk

38:10       the wife during the iddah period is still a wife. if her husband dies during this
                iddah period, she still inherit his property.

46:40       why rujuk is the right of men, the wisdom behind it........[ hilarious!  the meaning of 
                  ' no ' ie men must try harder....]

58:10       timing of divorce, to give time for couple to think and change decision...
                divorce should be a decision rather than a reaction/punishment

1:07:00    why allah does not give talaq right to women?

1:17:00    current misconception of equality between men and women contributing to current  
                 increase in divorce amongst modern muslim couples.

1:21:15   ' don't compete with your husband!,use your feminine qualities to control your men '

1:25:00    women's secret weapon....
     

Surah at Talaq, 65...........

ladies,

this surah is especially important to ladies.
forget about the bad news of divorce.
concentrate on the good news!
the good shaykh alluded to this early on in his discourse

now come the bad news!
mid way, he tells a story of a chap who divorced his wife 'technically' 11 times!
ironically, he did not discuss about 'cina buta' in this discourse.
i think 'cina buta' is just a malaysian phenomena
malaysian ingenuity knows no bound....it even percolate down into how we practice our 'ugama'

listen.......

dr nik









shaykh mishary rashid al afasy, recitation

[   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RO3JGHqieN0   ]






commentary , shaykh dr haitham al haddad, part 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K8xLZCZDW0Y








it is back to ilm, ilm, ilm and more ilm....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cEnHFXyBhbw

Before We Move On to Surah at Talaq, 65........on zikr, zikr, zikr & yet more zikr......

friends, dato and tanseri,


let us get up several planes beyond our usual plane of thought, get well beyond our comfort zone, into the stratospheric zone of the tassawuf shaykh.
dwell into his mind and stay there a moment , a brief  quintessential moment.


let us first start with basic, with what i lovingly call the 'school prefect's take on zikrullah.
strong footing , albeit a wee bit blinkered, dry and 'sanitized', and 'safe', if safety is uppermost in your mind!

ustaz dr abdul basit, hails from kota bharu.
he is not a tassawuf sheikh. far from it
he sounds like a daie polishing and  receiving his education either from madinah, makkah or jordan. definitely not the typical post pondok going on  to al ghazalian/azhari-an egypt  type of variety.

he belongs to the same group as ustaz dr abdullah yasin, dr fathul bari, dr maza, dr rozaimi, ustaz rasul dahri dan mereka2 yang sewaktu dengan nya et al.......

but he suffice for our introductory discourse on zikr.
he set up the necessary 'boundaries' of what is known and what are 'ranting' and ijtihad ulama'.

their narrow and straight jacketing of issues related to ugama are not my cup of tea i must confess, but they are ok.
in my book, they are the 'school prefects', in their orientation and leanings.


[   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_FNjk79LJBk  ]


now, you can just stop here.
you are ok.
in life, if one chooses to be a sparrow, and it is 100 % safe to be a sparrow, be a sparrow.

but if you want to soar higher, you must make an attempt to be a  'majnun'.
or at least make friend with a 'majnun'

let us to listen to one of them.
let us  give an hour to shaykh al yacoubi, originally from syria, a tok guru of sacred knowledge, a ' lover ', a 'majnun' .

only majnun knows laila.
the rest think they know laila, but they are just dreaming!
bereft of  passion , one cannot even get up close to laila, let alone know her!



[   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUb5nZWpRgg   ]



if you are ok with shaykh al yacoubi, let us move on further to shaykh ninowy of atlanta, usa.
another ' majnun '. 
he belongs to the qadiri/shadhili/ninowy tariqat.
it has it's 'zawiyah' mainly in london, atlanta, cape town and as of last year i think somewhere in KL. 
the shaykh is not unfamiliar with KL as he is a regular figure  on tv al hijrah

his discourse is about 'presence' and stations of zikr.
one or two planes higher, we go up...let us soar like an eagle!


[   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-6xza5_PQE8   ]



now we come back  to 'earth',  to kuala lumpur.
currently now inundated by gory 'trials and tribulation of the insane', of you know whom.

for most though, back to the rigours and hardship of daily living and  for some, dying!

i must say , as a regular bloke, i have friends who are also fairly regular like me.
we lead mainly 'secular lives' mostly and and our lives revolve mostly around our work.
doctors are like that .

we work hard. we love all our patients. we try to bring up our children the best we can and we try to pay our taxes on time.

with respect to taxes, just yesterday i received a 'dirty letter' from lhdn to pay more taxes.
in this post najib financial fiasco era, lhdn scrutinise every bit and pieces and try to squeeze where they can. 
me and my colleauges we know we were being squeezed but we will help where we can, insyaallah!

we 'live' around our profession with little time left for other things.

i count myself blessed to have crossed the path of two good friends,  the late dr sabri rejab and dr fred, both now long departed, both in the realm of the BELOVED.

my 'good byes' to them revolved around zikr.
i must share these with you guys, and i know you all have 'read' this before but it would not harm to go thru them again.....

we are after all creatures of ghaflah, creatures that forget easily.



my good friend, dr sabri rejab in memorium,
[   http://drnikisahak.blogspot.com/2014/12/a-long-prescription-for-friend.html   ]




visiting fred......
[ http://drnikisahak.blogspot.com/2017/01/just-visiting-part-2.html  ]




your sincerely

dr nik isahak wan abdullah

“Come, come, whoever you are. 

Wanderer, worshiper, lover of leaving. 

It doesn't matter. Ours is not a caravan of despair. 

come, even if you have broken your vows a thousand times. 

Come, yet again , come , come.”

Rumi

Surah al Taghaabun,64.......epilogue

final and 4th part of commentary by shaykh dr haitham al haddad

[  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JdZNmHdhgWU  ]


4:30              the losers and the winners on the 'day of mutual loss'

5:10              three groups of losers...

14:00            your wealth and children and spouses, all can be potential 'fitnah'

38:50            the beauty of 'sedaqah'

48:10            spend, spend , spend....give, give , give; spend and give for HIS sake!




ustad nouman ali khan's overview of the surah, revisited

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uSwUrMxF1qQ





let us roast them all by their balls,
 sir!
http://drnikisahak.blogspot.com/2018/09/let-us-roast-them-all-by-balls.html